Let Your Anger Work for You
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Daniel Rodgers
People ask why this topic: The reason being is that this is usaully a topic not dealt with until it is too late.
Someone is seriously hurt, someone is in jail, and families are broken up.
How does this little 5 letter word cause such damage?
Well, I believe the main reason is that ANGER is left unattended. Sometimes ANGER is so mild that it isn't recognized as a problem.
Here is where you have your classic situation of MISDIRECTED ANGER (Anger left unattended or not dealt with the person or situation that caused it.
Based on my observations the most ANGER is caused in the work place.
An employee is upset about a situation with their boss.
For fear of reprisal they do not deal with the situation.
This starts the ball rolling into a build up.
They get in their car and someone cuts them off.
Not intentional, however, this builds'up more and starts festering, (By the way this causes your basic ROAD RAGE) now they go into the store the clerk isn't as pleasant as the person thinks they should be.
And boom they start yelling about the person being rude and uncourteous.
Maybe they were a little, however, not to the extent that warranted this outburst.
This now goes back to the first situation with the boss that was not dealt with.
Even worst thay do not deal with the situation with the clerk.
Now they have a build up of several incidences not properly dealt with or channeled.
Now for the worse scenario. they arrive home and the family is glad to see them.
However, someone does something not really bad , but could be a little annoying and they explode.
Now as far as they can see there isn't any real danger of letting their ANGER out.
Say it is a man and he gets into an agument with his wife.
They get a little too close(now remember they didn't deal with the boss-maybe scare of losing their job-didn't deal with the car that cut them off because they couldn't-didn't deal with the clerk because it didn't seem that important.)
However, built up anger now explodes again and they aren't scare of any consequences, shoving starts, wife falls down and hits her head. Hits that soft spot that everyone has and dies. Wife/Mother dead, Husband/Father in jail. Children witness the whole thing and have to live the rest of their lives seeing their father kill their mother.
A little extreme but possible. This is a classic case of Mis-Directed ANGER-check your prisons. There is a population of people who didn't mean to do it. This could have been the scenario.
Even worst is the person who try to drink their problem away and drive after drinking and hit someone. Maybe they black-out(Can't remember what happened) spend years in jail and will never even remember the incident.
What do you think about that 5 letter word now? A N G E R
By Daniel Rodgers
Published on 12/9/2009
Mostly Anger works against people. However,your anger can be your catalyst.
Mostly Anger works against people
Let Your Anger Work for You
Mostly Anger works against people. However,your anger can be your catalyst.
German theologian Martin Luther once said, “I never work better than when I am inspired by anger; when I am angry, I can write, pray, and preach well, for then my whole temperament is quickened, my understanding sharpened, and all mundane vexations and temptations depart.”
Anger is powerful stuff, all right!
Think about the last time you got really angry about something. Didn’t you feel an unequalled strength within yourself? Weren’t you filled with fire and passion and ready to take action?
While anger is often used in a destructive way, you can also learn to use anger to motivate yourself to higher and higher achievements.
How do you do this? First, you obviously need to get angry about the right things, and then you need to direct that anger in the right direction.
Look at your life the way it is right now. Are you satisfied with your career path, your financial situation, the state of your relationships, and the state of your health? If not, get mad about it! Let yourself get angry about your bad habits, your tendency to procrastinate, and the many missed opportunities your behavior has caused. Get mad about your inability to get and stay motivated long enough to make positive changes. Get mad about ignoring the problem until it became a chronic condition!
As Martin Luther described above, let your anger clear all confusion and mundane thoughts from your mind. Let it focus your thoughts to a laser point, and then turn that point onto any situation in your life that displeases you.
Use your anger to propel you into action. Decide that you’re “mad as hell” and you’re not going to take it any longer! Let your anger serve as a fire under your rear end to propel you into doing that which must be done to change your life once and for all.
Go on a rampage and clear out your bad habits. Eliminate your unproductive tendencies and replace them with empowering ones. Evaluate every aspect of your life carefully, and be willing to let go of anything that isn’t working for you.
If done correctly, this works like a charm.
Once you can reach a point of intolerance about your existing circumstances, you will find yourself feeling really angry, and really ready to make changes. THAT is the moment when you hold a powerful force for change right in the palm of your hand. Just remember to get angry about the situations and habits that detract from who you want to be, and be sure to direct your anger in constructive ways.
You may not be able to change everything overnight, but you can at least take the first steps today and then keep up with the process over time. You’ll also probably have to keep rekindling your anger from time to time because it tends to be short lived, but this is a good thing because it allows you to use it in a very precise and focused way.
Mostly Anger works against people. However,your anger can be your catalyst.
German theologian Martin Luther once said, “I never work better than when I am inspired by anger; when I am angry, I can write, pray, and preach well, for then my whole temperament is quickened, my understanding sharpened, and all mundane vexations and temptations depart.”
Anger is powerful stuff, all right!
Think about the last time you got really angry about something. Didn’t you feel an unequalled strength within yourself? Weren’t you filled with fire and passion and ready to take action?
While anger is often used in a destructive way, you can also learn to use anger to motivate yourself to higher and higher achievements.
How do you do this? First, you obviously need to get angry about the right things, and then you need to direct that anger in the right direction.
Look at your life the way it is right now. Are you satisfied with your career path, your financial situation, the state of your relationships, and the state of your health? If not, get mad about it! Let yourself get angry about your bad habits, your tendency to procrastinate, and the many missed opportunities your behavior has caused. Get mad about your inability to get and stay motivated long enough to make positive changes. Get mad about ignoring the problem until it became a chronic condition!
As Martin Luther described above, let your anger clear all confusion and mundane thoughts from your mind. Let it focus your thoughts to a laser point, and then turn that point onto any situation in your life that displeases you.
Use your anger to propel you into action. Decide that you’re “mad as hell” and you’re not going to take it any longer! Let your anger serve as a fire under your rear end to propel you into doing that which must be done to change your life once and for all.
Go on a rampage and clear out your bad habits. Eliminate your unproductive tendencies and replace them with empowering ones. Evaluate every aspect of your life carefully, and be willing to let go of anything that isn’t working for you.
If done correctly, this works like a charm.
Once you can reach a point of intolerance about your existing circumstances, you will find yourself feeling really angry, and really ready to make changes. THAT is the moment when you hold a powerful force for change right in the palm of your hand. Just remember to get angry about the situations and habits that detract from who you want to be, and be sure to direct your anger in constructive ways.
You may not be able to change everything overnight, but you can at least take the first steps today and then keep up with the process over time. You’ll also probably have to keep rekindling your anger from time to time because it tends to be short lived, but this is a good thing because it allows you to use it in a very precise and focused way.