ANGER

What is anger? A strong feeling of displeasure, grief, sorry. Inflamed emotions?

Everyone gets angry. I don’t think anyone plans to be angry. Through time I have learned not to express my anger impulsively, as sometimes I have done. In many situations I have repressed my anger and that unhealthy also. If we tend to hold our feelings inside rather than talk them out, we do ore likely to have an angry outburst as the pressure increases much like a pressure cooker.


Where did I learn about anger. Can’t remember where. This is an angry world we live in and no doubt as a child I have witnessed everyday frustrations, impatience and resentments that cause temps to flare.


I have experienced the feelings of anger when:
- I could not have my way.
- I did not get the grade ‘I thought’ I should have gotten.
- Did not get the promotion or recognition ‘I thought” I  should have gotten
- I could not have what I wanted, when I wanted it.
- husband was not doing what I thought a husband should do
- someone eating the last piece of cake
- children did not do what they were instructed to do
- Someone saying something to me and it hurt my feelings
- at myself for not trying hard enough in my personal endeavors

I could go on and on about angry….but I think I am able to quickly return to a sense of calm without exploding. Sometimes I don’t feel or think I am angry, yet my voice can become harsh for the final word, but I reason that I needed to be firm to let whoever I am talking to know that I meant business. Yet as I think about it, I realized that my actions showed all the signs of using anger to get what I wanted. The recipients reaction told me that I must have been angry, whether I thought I was or not.

Minor irritations like getting a parking ticket, standing on long lines do not make my blood boil.

I am always afraid though that as a woman, I can be a target of a man’s anger. Some men when angry can often become physical, emotional or sexual abusers. I have never been physically abused. I have felt emotionally abused when my husband had an extramarital affairs when we were 10 years married. The emotional neglect such as inattention to my needs for his affection.

To be continued, I will get back to you on this one